Looking for advice!I have 3 best friends I made in college 10 years ago (let’s call them Alex, Betty, and Carrie). We talk every other day or so in our group chat and travel to visit each other multiple times a year.Six years ago I met my friend Daisy and over the years, we’ve become incredibly close. We also talk every day and visit one another often. I lost a parent a few years ago, and even though I didn’t know Daisy very well at the time, she and her husband basically fed and took care of me for a year. We have a very special friendship, and there’s a lot of things I feel comfortable sharing with her that I don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone else about, not even my college besties.All that to say, I really want Daisy to be my maid of honor. While I don’t think Alex, Betty, or Carrie would be angry at me, there’s a couple reasons I think it might hurt their feelings:I’ve known them all for several years longer than I’ve known Daisy.Alex got married last year and had Betty has her MOH. Betty is an event planner and was an incredible MOH.Betty and I got engaged within a few days of each other and have been talking a lot about wedding stuff. (But Daisy has been the person I go to first).Betty said she can’t choose a MOH between three of us so is having me, Alex, and Carrie all as co-MOH. Because Betty is amazing, her wedding is pretty much completely planned and she doesn’t really need (or want) any of the traditional help from a MOH. (I thought about doing this too but am a very unorganized person and my FH is actually doing a lot of the planning lol but I definitely need a lot of help and am not organized enough to pull off 4 MOH.)I was engaged to someone else 7 years ago while I never explicitly asked, Betty and I talked about her being my MOH.neither Betty or I are big on the spotlight so we’ve talked about doing a joint bach. Might be weird at the bach if I’m one of her MOHs but she’s not mine?Even if I didn’t have Daisy in my life, I don’t think I could choose one MOH between my college friends anyway. And I’m definitely asking them all to be bridesmaids!Do you have any suggestions for ways I can navigate this situation without hurting anyone’s feelings? I’m seeing Daisy this week for thanksgiving and would love to ask her in person. via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/30MT1Ef
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