Is 5:00pm too early for dinner?

Hi all! So I just need a moment to vent a little bit and would really appreciate some feedback/thoughts from the group.My fiance and I are having our small civil ceremony in just over two weeks. Although our original plan was just to elope, we decided to expand the celebration to include our direct families so we now have a group of 16 people total invited. The plan is to have our ceremony at 3:00pm, followed by a reception at 4:00pm and then dinner at 5:00pm. We realize that 5:00pm might be on the early side for dinner. However I know myself and my anxiety, and I won't really have much of an appetite earlier in the day so by the time we are finally done with the ceremony I will be hungry. Furthermore, I just always imagined having a nice celebratory dinner and the restaurant we have booked is amazing. I personally feel like it would almost be a waste not to take advantage and have a meal there all together. Since the wedding is coming up so soon, I want to emphasize that I have everything already set - the reservation at the restaurant, the menus have been finalized, and I received the invoice yesterday. I was just about to sign it and submit it.However, I decided to wait because my FMIL wanted my fiance and I to go over to her place to discuss wedding stuff. She is now saying that we shouldn't do dinner, that it doesn't make sense because it's too early. She thinks we should do a two hour reception instead and call it a day because dinner would be "too much". I realize she may concerned with money because we are covering it ourselves and she feels guilty about that. But I don't think she realizes how much anxiety it has caused me. I am now starting to second guess my plans, and I am stressing out having to reach back out to the restaurant after finally having everything squared away to change everything around. Again, the wedding is in two Fridays. Furthermore, while I realize all she wants to do is help, her input has been somewhat contrarian in general so every time we have a conversation related to wedding-planning, I end up feeling anxious and stressed out. I am a horrible people pleaser and I hate confrontation so I tend to nod along with any suggestion she makes (usually it's not that deep so I don't mind too much), but this time I feel really bothered by it.It just makes me sad because at the end of the day, I just want to marry my fiance and have a fun time. We ended up planning everything else to accommodate our families to make them happy, and now these plans are the ones causing us distress. I don't know what to do, so some unbiased feedback would be super helpful. via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3mnrsJv