Friend assumes she is a bridesmaid

Partially venting, partially seeking advice -I’m having 6 bridesmaids (3 friends from high school, 3 friends from college). I would have loved to have more, but my fiancé wanted to be selective of people standing up with him, and I respect that.After our wedding shower this past weekend, I had a few friends call me to tell me they heard another friend (one from high school who is not a bridesmaid) introduce herself to some of my aunts as one of the bridesmaids. At some point the topic of dresses and other bridesmaid type things came up. This friend was apparently saying she knows the dresses are black, but hasn’t heard anything else and is excited to pick out her dress. It was a very awkward situation for the girls who are actually bridesmaids who had just ordered dresses last week. They said there were other little comments throughout that alluded to them figuring out she was under the impression she was a bridesmaid, but also had no clue about any of the details, which left them really confused. But hearing her introduce herself as a bridesmaid to my fiancé’s family was their lightbulb moment. I didn’t hear anything directly, since I was circulating and greeting a lot of my fiancé’s family.This friend is not the type to stir up drama or be petty or wedge herself in- she is truly one of the most logical and sensible people I know. I think there was just an assumption made on her part and no one realized it until now.It frustrates me because my wedding website & wedding party was the first thing to be done after we got engaged (we got engaged in April, getting married in January) since we had a hard time disagreeing on how big the party should be. I would have thought not seeing your name on that section would be a tip off. I would also think 3 months out and not having heard anything about dresses or bach weekend, and not having formally (or I guess “officially” for lack of better terms) would have also been signs. I’ve always been taught you never assume you’ll be a part of a wedding until you are actually asked.This is just a very awkward situation all around. I’m typically a non confrontational person, so I’m not sure how to approach a conversation without letting my frustration get the best of me. She’s been a good friend for a long time but the last thing I want to do is upset or hurt her. via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3vnaRIu