My wedding is this Saturday and I keep forgetting

What the title says really, I just keep forgetting that it's coming up, and feel ridiculously calm about it. Did any other wedditors go through this? I feel like I should be excited and stressed and running around doing a million things but I'm so chilled. via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3dtnYQm

Off the Beaten Path US Honeymoon Destinations?

Hey there! My fiance and I are trying to pin down our destination for a May honeymoon. We need to keep it fairly low-cost, as we're covering our own wedding. We're also opting to keep it domestic due to covid concerns. What are some fun, off-the-beaten-path spots to check out in the spring? Thanks! via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3lG6apy

Does anyone have any experience with Alfa Bridal?

Hi, Weddit! I got an Instagram ad for their bridesmaids dresses, and they have some colors that I love. But I’ve never heard of them before, so I wanted to see if anyone had used them and how the experience was.Thanks so much! via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3rJX7YM

Custom dress or shopping experience with families?

I’m torn between wether or not to go custom for my dress or do the whole bridal boutique shopping experience with my bridesmaids, my fiancé’s mom, and my mom. The designer that Ive been working with has been really communicative and flexible when it comes to my budget. She originally quoted me $2800. I was transparent with her and said that my budget allowed for $2200. She worked with me.She’s also designing my bridesmaids dresses and my reception outfit. My dilemma here is that she lives in a different state and shipping costs + traveling for fittings has to be accounted for in my dress budget (the bridesmaids will not have to travel for fittings). My parents will be helping with the dress but I’m not sure how much because they are also helping out where they can with the wedding. Another issue Is I didn’t think the fitting experience was important to me, but now I’m thinking that I’ll regret missing out on it.I’m for sure having the designer do the bridesmaids, and my reception look which will be much more affordable. I’m just torn about the dress. Help! via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3DwBFsk

How helpful is your future hubby/wifey in helping you plan the wedding? Does your future hubby/wifey think it's both of your wedding or just theirs/yours?

Hello, the questions is pretty straight forward! Just wanna see where everyone else stands and send words of encouragement to those who need it 🥰😊My future hubby has been great! He has helped me with everything but the photographer and some things for the bridesmaids!Photographer- he wants someone who is great and is good with people! My fiancé is on the autism spectrum and wants someone who is good with people. My bro and SIL used the same photographer as well and the pics were lovely!My future hubby gets so mad when I say "my wedding" "my flowers!" It is pur wedding and he makes everyone know it lol!!! via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3EB0HI4

Help me reset my expectations for bachelorette party

Venting a bit but I could probably use an attitude adjustment here.A little background: my wedding is in 6 months. MOH is in charge of the bachelorette shindig, we started talking ideas about 9 months ago and she's in the early stages of actually planning now. She doesn't want me to be super involved and to "sit back and relax, we got this." I have 3 other bridesmaids from different areas of my life, most have only met each other once or not at all. Two of them, my sister and FSIL, live out of state.The ideas: I figured since we were all spread out, a destination bachelorette where all or most have to travel seemed the most fair. I threw out a couple locations that I thought covered a variety of budgets, some maybe a little unattainable but would be cool. Others more affordable but closer to home if a little less awesome. I was looking forward to a mini vacation and bonding with my girls a month or two before the wedding. I did not communicate that last bit to MOH.The current situation: MOH decided that the ideal timeline for the bachelorette shindig would be a week or two before the wedding. Needed budgets from everyone and sister and FSIL weren't responsive so I had to nudge them on her behalf. MOH has recently decided to move shindig up closer to wedding to make it easier for people who have to travel so they only have to travel once for the wedding. Current plan is have it the Thursday before the wedding with an overnight in either a family-oriented tourist town that will be in it's off-season, or a big working-town kind of city.Feelings on the matter: A little disappointed and extremely apprehensive. The week before the wedding would be super busy even if I wasn't knee-deep in diy projects and already seemed like a tight timeline. I was already a little nervous about how everyone would get along and still am, I am now also nervous about what there is to actually do for the event and needing to do emotional management with even fewer options. I know that my bridesmaids are not really highly organized planning types like myself and now I have no idea what to expect. While some of my ideas were a little lofty I probably got too attached to them and am feeling let down.I am well and aware that I am overreacting; I should really just be grateful that anyone is nice enough to do anything for me at all. So really what I'm looking for is a way to get excited about a weekday celebration and how to relax during a really stressful week.TL;DR bachelorette dreams dashed, help me get hyped. via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/31AD8RB

Did you get guilt tripped by family for throwing an expensive wedding?

My fiance and I just started wedding planning, and we just secured a venue/date and sent out our save the dates. It's honestly our dream venue, and we're still in shock that we were able to get a date there at all in such a busy wedding season. It's definitely not a cheap venue though, and ever since we sent out our save the dates and told people the location, we've been getting SO much backlash.For context, both of our families are immigrants and started off in this country dirt poor. Everyone has slowly managed to work their way to being solidly middle class, but to this day no one is well-off by any means.My fiance and I are both in our final year of grad school, but we both worked for several years between college and grad school so we have a good chunk of savings. We'll be paying for this wedding ourselves entirely out of our savings, not by borrowing money or maxing out credit cards. I'll admit it will be a big chunk of our savings, but we have decided it's worth it because we'll both be starting our dream jobs next year in a new city and will be earning like 4x more money than we've ever earned before in our lives. We're estimating we'll be able to build up this chunk of our savings again in under a year. So to celebrate the end of grad school, our last moments in our current city, and of course the beginning of our new lives, we decided it's worth it to splash out on our dream venue.Now we are cutting corners in other ways, we're not just blindly spending money. Our photographer and videographer are industry newbies and thus extremely budget friendly, and we eliminated several things entirely that weren't important to us (e.g. no band, no cake, no paper invitations, no wedding favours, no limos, no wedding planner, minimalist decor, VERY cheap engagement ring and wedding bands). But of course, no one is asking us about how much the centrepieces will cost. Instead all they care about is how we're being "irresponsible" and "self-centered" by choosing such an expensive venue.I'm constantly hearing comments from relatives about how inconsiderate we're being towards our younger unmarried cousins since their future weddings won't be as fancy and they'll feel jealous, how materialistic we're being, how this is such a financially irresponsible decision, how we'll regret spending this much money when we're older/wiser, how we should learn to compromise on things and not have such picky standards, etc. I'm getting the brunt of this since I'm the bride and people are assuming that I must have thrown a bridezilla style tantrum to get my fiancé to agree to such an expensive venue (I didn't, he's just as excited about this venue as I am).I was on cloud nine ever since we signed the venue contract, but now that bubble has just burst and I feel like maybe we are being self-centred and irresponsible. Anyone have any recommendations on how to respond to family when they say stuff like the above? Did you regret your expensive wedding? via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/3Iu4Tf0