Venting a bit but I could probably use an attitude adjustment here.A little background: my wedding is in 6 months. MOH is in charge of the bachelorette shindig, we started talking ideas about 9 months ago and she's in the early stages of actually planning now. She doesn't want me to be super involved and to "sit back and relax, we got this." I have 3 other bridesmaids from different areas of my life, most have only met each other once or not at all. Two of them, my sister and FSIL, live out of state.The ideas: I figured since we were all spread out, a destination bachelorette where all or most have to travel seemed the most fair. I threw out a couple locations that I thought covered a variety of budgets, some maybe a little unattainable but would be cool. Others more affordable but closer to home if a little less awesome. I was looking forward to a mini vacation and bonding with my girls a month or two before the wedding. I did not communicate that last bit to MOH.The current situation: MOH decided that the ideal timeline for the bachelorette shindig would be a week or two before the wedding. Needed budgets from everyone and sister and FSIL weren't responsive so I had to nudge them on her behalf. MOH has recently decided to move shindig up closer to wedding to make it easier for people who have to travel so they only have to travel once for the wedding. Current plan is have it the Thursday before the wedding with an overnight in either a family-oriented tourist town that will be in it's off-season, or a big working-town kind of city.Feelings on the matter: A little disappointed and extremely apprehensive. The week before the wedding would be super busy even if I wasn't knee-deep in diy projects and already seemed like a tight timeline. I was already a little nervous about how everyone would get along and still am, I am now also nervous about what there is to actually do for the event and needing to do emotional management with even fewer options. I know that my bridesmaids are not really highly organized planning types like myself and now I have no idea what to expect. While some of my ideas were a little lofty I probably got too attached to them and am feeling let down.I am well and aware that I am overreacting; I should really just be grateful that anyone is nice enough to do anything for me at all. So really what I'm looking for is a way to get excited about a weekday celebration and how to relax during a really stressful week.TL;DR bachelorette dreams dashed, help me get hyped. via /r/weddingplanning https://ift.tt/31AD8RB
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